3 Ways to Address Painful Intercourse After Cancer Treatment

Cancer treatments such as chemotherapy, radiation, and surgery are life-saving interventions, but they often come with challenging side effects, including pain during intercourse. For many cancer survivors, this discomfort—known as dyspareunia—can significantly impact their quality of life and intimate relationships. Fortunately, there are effective strategies to address this issue, many of which focus on improving vaginal health and pelvic floor function. In this article, we’ll explore three proven ways to alleviate painful intercourse after cancer treatment, including the use of Intimate Rose Vaginal Dilators and the Intimate Rose Pelvic Wand.

1. Addressing Vaginal Stenosis and Elasticity with Vaginal Dilators

One common side effect of cancer treatment, particularly radiation therapy in the pelvic area, is vaginal stenosis. This condition involves a narrowing or shortening of the vaginal canal due to scar tissue and loss of elasticity. Vaginal stenosis can make intercourse painful or even impossible, causing distress and frustration for survivors. Vaginal dilators are an excellent tool for overcoming these challenges and restoring comfort.

How Vaginal Dilators Work

Vaginal dilators are medical devices designed to gently stretch and maintain the flexibility of the vaginal tissues. The Intimate Rose Vaginal Dilators are FDA cleared, and crafted with soft, body-safe silicone to ensure a comfortable experience. They come in graduated sizes, allowing users to progress at their own pace. This gradual approach helps reduce pain and anxiety associated with insertion, making them ideal for cancer survivors with heightened sensitivity.

Benefits of Using Intimate Rose Vaginal Dilators

• Improved Vaginal Elasticity: Regular use helps stretch the vaginal tissues, increasing elasticity and reducing discomfort
• Minimized Scar Tissue: Gentle stretching can prevent or break down scar tissue caused by radiation or surgery
• Restored Vaginal Length: Dilators can help restore the vaginal canal’s natural length, which may be affected by stenosis
• Enhanced Confidence: By improving physical comfort, dilators can help survivors regain confidence in their sexual relationships

How to Use Intimate Rose Vaginal Dilators

• Start Slowly: Begin with the smallest size and use plenty of water-based lubricant for smooth insertion
• Relax: Find a comfortable position, such as lying down on your back with bent knees, and focus on deep breathing to ease tension
• Progress Gradually: Use the dilator for 10-30 minutes per day, 5-6 days per week, gradually increasing the size and duration as your comfort improves
• Seek Professional Guidance: A pelvic health physical therapist can provide personalized instructions and support throughout the process

2. Targeting Pelvic Floor Tender Points with a Pelvic Wand

Cancer treatments can also lead to pelvic floor dysfunction, a condition where the muscles in the pelvic region become tight, tender, or weak. Pelvic floor dysfunction often contributes to painful intercourse, as tense muscles can cause discomfort during penetration. Addressing these issues requires a targeted approach to relax and release tension in the pelvic floor—and the Intimate Rose Pelvic Wand is an excellent tool for this purpose.

What Is a Pelvic Wand?

A uniquely designed device used to locate and relieve tender points or trigger points in the pelvic floor muscles. The Intimate Rose pelvic wand is made from soft, medical-grade silicone and shaped for easy access to both superficial and deep muscles. Its ergonomic design ensures that users can comfortably reach areas that may be contributing to their pain.

How the Pelvic Wand Helps

• Relieves Tension: The wand’s gentle pressure helps relax tight muscles and release trigger points
• Reduces Pain: By addressing muscle dysfunction, the wand can significantly decrease discomfort during intercourse
• Improves Circulation: Massage with the wand promotes blood flow to the pelvic region, aiding tissue healing and relaxation
• Empowers Self-Care: Allows users to take an active role in their recovery and address pain in the privacy of their home

How to Use the Intimate Rose Pelvic Wand

• Prepare: Use a water-based lubricant to ease insertion, and ensure you’re in a comfortable, relaxed position
• Locate Tender Points: Gently insert the wand and explore the pelvic floor muscles, identifying areas of tenderness or tightness
• Apply Gentle Pressure: Press on the tender points for 30-60 seconds, then release. This technique helps the muscles relax
• Incorporate Breathing: Pair the massage with diaphragmatic breathing to maximize relaxation and reduce pain
• Seek Professional Guidance: If you’re unsure how to use the wand, consult a pelvic health physical therapist for guidance

3. Hydrating and Nourishing Vaginal Tissues with Moisturizers and Lubricants

Another common cause of painful intercourse after cancer treatment is vaginal dryness. Chemotherapy, hormone therapy, and surgical removal of the ovaries can lead to decreased estrogen levels, resulting in thinning, dryness, and irritation of the vaginal tissues. These changes can make intimacy uncomfortable or even unbearable. Fortunately, vaginal moisturizers and lubricants provide a simple yet effective solution.

Vaginal Moisturizers

Unlike lubricants, which are used during sexual activity, vaginal moisturizers are designed for regular use to improve hydration and restore the natural moisture barrier of the vaginal tissues. Products containing hyaluronic acid or vitamin E are particularly beneficial for cancer survivors, as they provide deep hydration and promote healing.

Lubricants

For immediate relief during intercourse, a high-quality lubricant is essential. Look for water-based or silicone-based options that are free from irritants such as glycerin or parabens. These lubricants reduce friction and provide a smooth, comfortable experience.

Tips for Using Moisturizers and Lubricants

• Consistency Matters: Apply vaginal moisturizers daily or as directed to maintain tissue hydration
• Experiment with Lubricants: Test different types to find the one that works best for your body
• Combine with Other Treatments: Use moisturizers and lubricants alongside dilators or pelvic floor therapy for a comprehensive approach
• Avoid Irritants: Choose products specifically designed for sensitive skin to prevent further discomfort

Conclusion

Painful intercourse after cancer treatment is a common yet deeply personal challenge that can affect survivors’ physical and emotional well-being. Fortunately, tools such as dilators and wands along with the use of vaginal moisturizers and lubricants, offer effective solutions. Each of these methods targets a specific aspect of post-treatment discomfort, empowering survivors to take control of their recovery and restore intimacy in their relationships.

If you’re experiencing painful intercourse after cancer treatment, know that you’re not alone, and help is available. Consult with a pelvic health physical therapist or a trusted healthcare provider to develop a personalized plan. With the right support and tools, it’s possible to regain comfort, confidence, and connection.

Dr. Amanda Olson teaches internationally on various pelvic health topics and has written various articles on pelvic floor dysfunction and running. She authored the book: Restoring the Pelvic Floor For Women. Dr. Olson is the president and chief clinical officer of Intimate Rose where she develops pelvic health products and education. She is passionate about empowering women and men with pelvic health issues including pelvic pain, incontinence and postpartum issues.